You check your horoscope every day, and let's be real, you've looked into your S.O.'s, too. But what about your sister? Your brother? Understanding your siblings' signs might mean your family drama goes from This Is Us to more Brady Bunch. (Less tears for everyone, right?) Jeff Hinshaw, the professional astrologer behind the podcast Cosmic Cousins, explains exactly what you need to know about your sibs, based on their signs.
1. AQUARIUS (JANUARY 20–FEBRUARY 18)
Your Aquarius sibling is all about bringing people together and uplifting them. They want to make sure the family comes together harmoniously—so they will want to make sure everyone at the dinner table has a chance to speak their mind.
They are the sign most likely to shut off from the family if they are not given permission to really voice their optimistic, starry-eyed view of the future. So sit back and take the time to ask them what they think.
2. ARIES (MARCH 21–APRIL 19)
Your Aries brother or sister is all about standing out as an individual, but finding ways to collaborate with him or her could be very beneficial.
Aries can have the tendency to feel like the black sheep of family, so make them feel welcome to balance that. As long as they are given independence, they can be your biggest champion.
3. CANCER (JUNE 21–JULY 22)
Known for transforming hurt into beauty, your Cancer sibling feels emotions deeply and is known for being a nurturer. He or she probably tries to mother you, no matter who is older. They can be on the bossy side, so give them an outlet. (Think: putting your Cancer sis in charge of decor next Thanksgiving.)
Cancers have a shell, so they can be guarded and protected. If you have plans to go to dinner and it’s four of you, don’t invite anyone else without asking a Cancer first, since they won’t be prepared for the extra emotional effort.
4. CAPRICORN (DECEMBER 22–JANUARY 19)
5. GEMINI (MAY 21–JUNE 20)
The twin sign embodies both lightness and darkness. Your Gemini bro or sis has the ability to move between both worlds. They love words of affirmation, so always follow through with a text. ("Thx for the bday party! You the best!") If your Gemini sibling cancels at the last minute, don’t take it too personally. They are quick to change their mind, so try to go with the flow if you want to get along.
6. LEO (JULY 23–AUGUST 22)
Leos rule over the heart; they’re very passionate and inspire everyone around them. Just like the lion, they like to have a tribe, which is why they are considered to be really great party hosts. They enjoy expressive activities that bring people together, like a game of charades. They can be pretty passionate with emotions and feel things deeply, so don’t be surprised if they are overly dramatic at times.
7. LIBRA (SEPTEMBER 23–OCTOBER 22)
Very relationship-focused, Libras are great at communicating effectively and keeping the peace. They might be passive and not tell you what’s in their heart and mind, though, so don’t be afraid to dig deeper. Libras love romance, and not just in relationships. Plan a sunset dinner with wine for your next sibling get together; Libras really value spending quality time together.
8. PISCES (FEBRUARY 19–MARCH 20)
Pisces are dreamers who feel emotions deeply. They can also be very adaptable and open to change. Pisces can sometimes need help sticking to routines, though, so encouraging them to follow a to-do list can help ground them. If you have a Pisces sibling who is all over the map, help them create structure in their life by doing things like planning to get together on the same day every week.
9. SAGITTARIUS (NOVEMBER 22–DECEMBER 21)
Very funny, smart, and visionary, Sags can also be fiery, arrogant, know-it-alls. They are worldly and tend to be well-traveled. If they haven’t actually traveled, then they have explored travel in books. They are natural teachers who tend to be into higher learning.
Plan to do something cultural together—like an opera, concert, museum, or even a movie. Or, find something that connects them to their neighborhood, since they’re always thinking bigger than their immediate surroundings.
10. SCORPIO (OCTOBER 23–NOVEMBER 21)
Deeply intellectual, Scorpios are great at uncovering secrets. If something is wrong, they will figure it out. If you keep a secret, they will find out and hold it against you. (Uh, so maybe don't even try to do that?) They enjoy deep conversations, so make sure you carve out time to hear their thoughts and specific ideas about the world. Give them a chance to talk about their internal landscape.
11. TAURUS (APRIL 20–MAY 20)
Your Taurus sibling might be kind of materialistic, but really, they just value their connections their to belongings. They give off a leisurely vibe, are down to earth, and want to keep things simple, so connecting them to their five senses is going to help you connect with them. You could flatter them with a thoughtful gift. (Think: essential oils.)
12. VIRGO (AUGUST 23–SEPTEMBER 22)
Conceptual and hard-working, this earth sign has a tendency to be really focused on small details. When Virgos connect to spirituality, they are very devoted—they will show up to the yoga mat every day. That’s part of the reason why going to a yoga class with a Virgo sibling is a good idea—plus, they're also introverted and need time alone to think.
Virgos love acts of service—they will help you build a bed frame or move apartments. Virgos will be the first to clean the kitchen after a party, so tell your sibling to relax at the table while you do the dishes if you want to give him or her a break.
This article originally appeared on Women's Health UK