So what does a dating coach recommend when you finally have his attention? Don't bring up negative experiences.
Speaking to The Independent, dating coach James Preece says you need to keep things fun if you want things to go well.
"On a first date, you want to keep every question light and positive," says Preece. "If you talk about happy, positive things then you'll be viewed in the same way. So ask them about their family, favourite holidays and find out what they are passionate about."
"When they talk about subjects that really interest them, their face will light up and they'll smile more.
"If you moan or ask something associated with a negative topic, they'll think the same of you," continues Preece.
That being said, you should never bring up your ex or past relationships - your date will think you're still hung up on them and haven't moved on. So keep the conversation positive and if he’s smiling, you know you’ll be set for round two.
This article originally appeared on Men's Health.