Here, we explain what his main move says about his bedroom persona, and how you two can switch it up for more fun between the sheets.
Missionary is like Sex 101: It’s the way we’re “taught” to have sex, and the way that we see it most often in rom-coms and TV shows. Though this position is a classic, a missionary man might be a little insecure or “need reassurance by seeing his lover be responsive,” says sex therapist Ava Cadell.
He may also be keen on having control during sex, as missionary gives him all the driving power. Since the position finds both people face-to-face, there’s some intimacy to it—but its basicness suggests the guy might not be confident about the other moves in his arsenal. “It’s romantic, but not very adventurous,” says Cadell.
SWITCH THINGS UP: There’s nothing wrong with loving the classics, but make sure you two take a walk on the wild side every now and then. “If he can only climax during missionary, that’s a problem,” says Cadell, and he'll need to do some “reprogramming” to his sex life. Try switching to woman on top, which has all of the same intimate qualities, but will let him relinquish some of that control—and spice things up.
We’ve never met a guy who didn’t like doggy. This, some believe, is how man was meant to have sex. A doggy-lover “taps into his territorial animalistic instinct as king of the jungle,” says Cadell, “but he also has fears of intimacy and is generally unromantic.”
After all, you probably don’t go for rear entry because you want him to whisper sweet nothings in your ear from behind.
SWITCH THINGS UP: You can get the deepest penetration from this position, but what you earn in depth, you lose in intimacy. To make up for it, spring for spooning every now and then. He’ll still get to enter from behind, but the snuggly qualities of spooning sex will make your partner feel like a dime, rather than a piece of meat.
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WOMAN ON TOP
The beauty of this position is that there are a million ways to do it—and it’s all up to you. Men who love their women on the saddle are likely concerned with pleasing their partners.
Cadell says this move shows that “he’s confident in being submissive, but he can also be dominant when he enables her to reach an orgasm with deeper penetration.” Basically, he gets off helping you get off.
SWITCH THINGS UP: We get that he likes the view from down there (who wouldn’t?) but have him take control every now and again by flipping you over. You’ll appreciate the occasional shift in power, and the view isn’t bad from back there either.