What Exactly Is Sensory Sex? Your Guide To Engaging All Five Senses To Boost Sexual Wellness - Women's Health

What Exactly Is Sensory Sex? Your Guide To Engaging All Five Senses To Boost Sexual Wellness

Sensory sex has been said to improve wellbeing, reduce stress, support creativity and even lift your mood naturally.

If you haven’t been watching Sex, Love & Goop, where have you been? The Netflix series from Goop’s creative team and Gwyneth Paltrow is an eye-opening look into sexual wellness, pleasure and desire. Consider it a certain kind of sex education for a new age, one that takes into consideration the various ways couples relate to one another through their erotic blueprints, as well as things like body confidence, navigating parenthood and intimacy and the obstacles that arise in a monogamous relationship overtime. As an audience, we watch as couples not only voice such concerns in their relationship, but also look to overcome them with the help of sexologists. In any case, Sex, Love & Goop might just hold the key to unlocking the Best Sex of Your Life. 

But while most of us aren’t in a position to chat to Paltrow’s team of experts about our own sex life, the show has given us food for thought. In listening to discussions about erotic blueprints, many of us have been encouraged to do the test for ourselves, looking at what turns us on and what areas might be open for exploration. If you’ve been wanting to spice things up in your sex life, consider the following: sensory sex. 

The name might conjure images of blindfolds and heated chocolate, but there are a number of ways to capture the senses and, in doing so, heighten sexual intimacy and pleasure. According to Megwyn White, Certified Clinical Sexologist and Director of Education at sexual wellness brand Satisfyer, “sensory sex and orgasms have a wide-ranging effect that supports our body’s overall wellbeing.” Benefits include improved radiance and glory skin, strengthening muscles, and even engaging the nervous system to heighten the effects of pleasure. All in all, sensory sex is pretty good for both mind and body. It’s even been known to improve mental wellbeing, support creativity and life your mood. 

So, what exactly is sensory sex? Essentially, it involves the act of engaging as many senses as you can to help heighten sexual pleasure and deepen intimacy with your partner. Touch might garner the most attention when it comes to sex, but there are a number of important elements that you can also incorporate to engage other senses, from visual through to auditory. Sensory sex can help you let go of the pressure that comes with exclusive focus on climax and the genitals as you engage other pleasure zones and pathways. 

“When we explore our sexual desires, we can tap into a spring of pleasure that can unlock dormant potential. Just remember to stay curious when it comes to sensory sex. Your senses are part of your overall sensual intelligence and will develop as you utilise them,” explains White. 

If you want to engage other senses, consider something like sound that can help guide eroticism and add an aural texture to pleasure. Things like dirty talk engage hearing, while there’s also the sounds of arousal building and reaching climax. Even something as simple as music or a curated playlist can enhance sensory sex, even if it’s just a tone of music that gets you in the mood. One of the key senses when it comes to sex is, of course, sight, and for a number of people visuals will be important when it comes to desire. Simply looking at your partner’s body can be a huge turn-on, while other supporting visuals can help to increase anticipation, eroticism, desire and body confidence. Things like a strip-tease, playing an erotic movie, or using a blindfold to selectively heighten senses are all forms of heightening the visual senses. 

Smell is considered one of the most erotic senses, being tied to the limbic system of the brain which governs emotions, long-term memory and sexual impulses. Incorporating scent is a sure-fire way to spice up your sex life, but scents have also been known to calm the mind and body and help in creating sensual memories. Consider the use of scents like vanilla and sandalwood, or find out your lover’s favourite perfume or cologne and wear it. You can also utilise things like massage oils or candles. Taste is equally an erotic sense as it sends signals to our brain that we can relax and connect with our pleasure. Whether it be in foreplay or sex, consider incorporating foods like fruit, honey, warm chocolate or whipped cream that add a unique flavour to your play. There’s also flavoured lubes to choose from, while sexual fluids are also highly unique, presenting an opportunity to taste and get comfortable with the natural flavour of your partner. 

When it comes to touch, there are a number of touch receptors on the body that can detect everything from hot and cold, texture and vibration. Typically in sex, we ignore the countless ways touch can be administered and simply default to that which we already know and are comfortable with. Consider slowing down touch, or applying firmer pressure, you can also use things like ice, glass dildos or things like feathers, velvet, fur, or felt that feel amazing on the skin. Even something as simple as taking a warm bath together and experimenting with bath salts and oils can be highly erotic. 

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