A word that would hurt any normal woman’s feelings, but one that Allison turned into an important teaching moment.
“She was upset I made them get out of the pool and she told her brother that mama is fat,” Allison wrote.
“I told her to meet me upstairs so we could chat.”
“Me: ‘What did you say about me?’”
“Her: ‘I said you were fat, mama, I’m sorry.’”
“Me: Let's talk about it. The truth is, I am not fat. No one IS fat. It's not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and our bones and keeps our bodies going by providing us energy. Do you have fat?’”
“Her: ‘Yes! I have some here on my tummy.’”
She explained that some people had a lot of fat and others didn’t have much, but it didn’t make either better than the other.
“Each moment these topics come up I have to choose how I'm going to handle them,” she continued.
“Fat is not a bad word in our house. If I shame my children for saying it then I am proving that it is an insulting word and I continue the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical and undesirable.”
She says that children will be fed these negative stereotypes throughout their lives but it’s important to be “the loudest, most accepting, positive and CONSISTENT voice they hear”.
“So that it can rise above the rest.”