1. The O... Clitoral
You’re probably familiar with these (and if not, add a vibrator and some solo time to your list, pronto). “There are 8000 nerve endings in the clitoris and it’s easily accessible,” says Otten. “Whenever we have a penetrative orgasm, it’s because whatever is inside us is actually rubbing against the clitoral nerves, which go about seven centimetres into the vagina.” Most women (75 per cent of us) can’t orgasm through penetration alone, reports research in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, so try a bullet vibrator which is small enough to place between you and your partner during sex.
2. The O... Breast/Nipple
Many of us like having our lady lumps touched and stroked, but climaxing from that is also possible. According to a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the sensation from nipple stimulation travels to the same part of the brain as sensations from the vagina, clitoris and cervix. Work on this yourself or with a partner, and frame it positively. “Say ‘Oh, I love it when you kiss my breasts, that really turns me on. I would love it if we could spend more time during foreplay doing that,’” suggests sexpositive journalist Nadia Bokody.
3. The O... Kissing Pucker up.
“About 20 per cent of women have orgasmed from kissing,” shares Otten. “It takes a lot of focus and attention to the sensations. Your lips are a hundred times more sensitive than fingertips, so if they are stimulated long enough, you can climax this way.” She advises asking your partner to play with your lips and mouth, using sucking and tongue strokes, “kind of like [you would with] the genital area”.
4. The O... Anal
If you find this kind of play pleasurable, you can experience intense orgasms “as there are a huge amount of nerve endings in the anal area”, says Otten. Use plenty of lube if you’re trying anal sex or using a vibrator. For double the fun and to experience what’s called a ‘blended orgasm’, use two vibrators at the same time, with the other on your clitoris.
5. The O... G-spot
The G-spot has been described as ‘gynaecological UFO’ – much searched for and talked about, but never really verified. “For a lot of people, it’s actually where the clitoral nerve endings are inside, on the upper part of the vagina,” explains Otten. To find yours, curve your first two fingers like a letter C and slide them up into your vagina. Feel for a soft, spongy area of skin behind the clitoris and experiment with different pressures and strokes. OMG, indeed.
6. The O... Cervical
Also known as the ‘deep spot’ orgasm, this can happen from deep penetration either from a penis or a vibrator that’s long and girth-y enough to bump on your cervix. Doggie position is a good way to try this or laying on your back with your knees up towards your chest. “It can be an intense feeling, but quite a few women like it,” says Otten. C-spot Os can happen when you breathe into and really focus on your cervix, and are described as full-body powerful, intense waves.
7. The O... Zone
These ‘sweet spot’ orgasms are the result of stimulating a sensitive area that isn’t typically thought of as erotic, such as gently scratching down the nape of the neck or having someone’s tongue in your ear. To experience a zonegasm, you need to become mindful during foreplay. “Allow yourself to be in the moment, not thinking 10 steps ahead,” suggests Bokody. “Really focus on and enjoy all the sensations.”
8. The O... Fantasy
Your mind is the number one thing either allowing – or preventing – orgasm, so if you fantasise hard enough about your turn-on situations (threesome with the Hemsworths?) you may actually be able to think yourself to orgasm. “People with spinal cord injuries can still orgasm by simply fantasising about erotic situations,” says Otten. Practise alone and experiment with adding heavy breathing or Kegels to see if that gets you to climax