In the "Ask Dr. Dax" segment, the actor dished out some seriously stellar relationship advice when a woman asked him what she should do when her boyfriend gives her the “silent treatment”.
Dax: "That's Male 101, the silent treatment. Can I ask you a couple questions? Are you a transmission mechanic?"
Dax: "If your transmission broke, would you and your boyfriend try to fix it — would you take it out in the driveway and try to fix it?"
Courtney: "I would take it to the auto shop."
Dax: "Right, because you care about your car. Are you a couples counselor, are you a therapist?"
Dax: "Do you care about your relationship?"
Dax: "Then you should show it the same respect you'd show your car. You should go to a therapist, have couples therapy. Kristen and I started right out of the gate. It's a great way to prevent terrible patterns from starting as opposed to doing it way late and trying to unravel terrible patterns."
Kristen and Dax, who have two daughters together, have done much to break down the stigma around therapy, speaking candidly about the importance of communication in relationships and their use of couples, and personal, counsellors.
But the wise words didn’t end there, another audience member asked how he could get his wife to close the cupboard doors after she used them.
"At a certain point, you have to realise, 'OK, I'm a variable in this equation,” Dax responded.
“Kristen is a variable in this equation. ‘Which one can I change?’ I can't change her — that's not going to happen. So that means I have to just shut those cabinets and deal with it. You could drive yourself mad the rest of your life that this is happening and try to get them to change this, or you could personally go, 'I'm not going to let this bother me.' . . . It's really imperative that you recognise when you are going to be able to change that person or when you're going to have to do the changing."
Ahhh can we book an appointment, please?!