Friends with benefits seems like a perfect scenario if you’re craving some regular action but don’t want all the trappings of a relationship. But while the arrangement can work out great, it can also cause feelings of attachment to develop—and that’s pretty much the opposite of what you’re trying to achieve. And it turns out you may be more at risk of falling into this trap than the person warming your bed.
That’s one of the major findings from a new survey of 1,000 men and women by the online medical source DrEd. For the survey, the website polled people about friends with benefits situations and found that 52 percent of men become emotionally attached in a FWB set-up, compared to just 44 percent of women.
Friends with benefits is way more common than you’d think: Nearly 60 percent of people polled say they’ve had this kind of arrangement in the past, with 17 percent of American men saying they’re currently in a FWB situation.
Surprisingly, the arrangement isn’t just about sex—and that's perhaps what contributes to your difficulty in leaving it behind. Many men and women reported that they cuddle, talk about friends, family, and work, and text with their FWB in addition to discussing sexual preferences and experimenting in the bedroom. Just six percent of men and 15 percent of women say their FWB situation is strictly sex.
This article originally appeared on Men's Health