That said, if you're brave enough to bring toys in bed with you, it can pay off in a big way. So to help spell ensure that you and your partner are filling your toy box with the very best, we asked sex toy manufacturers what the best couples' toys are — and the best positions for each one.
1. THE LE WAND
A wand-style vibrator like Le Wand ($170, buy it here) is easy to hold and allows you to access multiple parts of the body. Alicia Sinclair, certified sex educator and founder/CEO of b-Vibe & Le Wand, recommends using it while you’re on top, giving him the freedom to stimulate your clitoris and allowing his hands to explore all parts of your body. "This position is great for foreplay, especially if you do wish to start with an actual lap dance," says Sinclair. (Bonus: Depending on the angle, he can also stimulate your g-spot.)
To try it, get your partner to sit on a stable, comfortable seat all the way back with his legs wide open. From a standing position, slowly back up to meet him and gently get him to glide inside of you.
2. B-VIBE'S NOVICE PLUG
If you’re open to anal play, using a small vibrating butt plug can be an awesome source of extra pleasure during partner sex. The butt is highly sensitive and full of nerve endings and adding this type of sensation to partner sex can be an awesome source of extra pleasure. “Start out by getting your partner to massage gently with a finger or inserting something petite like the b-Vibe’s Novice Plug ($130, buy it here), which will add additional pleasurable sensations and pressure,” says Sinclair. As an added plus, the vibration from the Novice Plug can be felt by both partners, meaning you’re sharing the good vibes as well.
Try using this toy while you're in doggy style (hey — it's a classic for a reason). Positioning yourself on all fours allows both of you to have easy access to many major erogenous zones on the outside and inside of the body. And don't forget, says Sinclair, "that lube is an essential part of making anal play feel good.” Try BabeLube Silk ($10-$24, buy it here).
3. FIN BY DAME PRODUCTS
Use a finger vibe, like Fin by Dame Products ($75, buy it here). Alexandra Fine, CEO of Dame Products, recommends using it in cowgirl position. "Add local vibration to specific erogenous zones, like the clitoris, to add an extra angle of stimulation,” says Fine.”
Cowgirl allows participation from both parties: being on top, you’re able to control your motions and help ensure a rhythm that leads to clitoral stimulation. Not only will your partner have a great view, but he can also aid in the movement of your hips, making it a true shared experience.
4. THE GLUVR
For an extra layer of intimacy, try the GLUVR ($49.95, buy it here), which is designed to be worn like a glove on your forefinger and thumb. "Dual vibrators at the tip of each digit can be stroked, slid, petted, pinched, or inserted in the same ways our hands might be used to enhance pleasure during sex,” says GLUVR's Jay Haney.
Your partner can use the GLUVR while lying behind you in spooning position, but Haney says that GLUVR can also used effectively in cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, and, of course, doggy style.
5. THE JIMMYJANE ASCEND 1
Sexologist Sunny Rodgers and resident sex expert at Jimmyjane is a big fan of the CAT position, or the Coital Alignment Technique, a position known for helping maintain direct clitoral contact. For this position, she recommends the Jimmyjane ASCEND 1 ($79, buy it here) .
“To up your orgasmic game, get your guy to start on top in classic missionary and shift his body up and to his right/your left,” says Rodgers. (Pro tip: Rodgers says the upper left quadrant of the clitoris is the most responsive to stimulation. You’re welcome.)
"Next, place the toy between you and your partner with the vibrating pleasure dome against your most sensitive spot. Then, rather than thrusting, rock forward and back repeatedly, slowly gaining momentum as you go.”
By maintaining constant clitoral contact and adding vibration, you’ll be climaxing in record time.
This article originally appeared on Men’s Health US.