Why The Erotic Blueprint Test From ‘Sex, Love And Goop’ Is Worth Taking - Women's Health

Why The Erotic Blueprint Test From ‘Sex, Love And Goop’ Is Worth Taking

A better understanding of your erotic desire could help you escape a sex rut or simply reinvigorate the passion in your relationship.

If you haven’t already heard, Gwyneth Paltrow has a new show on Netflix: Sex, Love and Goop. Yes, the woman who brought us the Vagina Candle and spoke at length about vaginal steaming and gold-plated vibrators is now bringing audiences sex education for a new age. Whatever your opinion of Paltrow – from those who see her as the pinnacle of health and wellness to others who simply record an eye roll on the Richter scale with her latest Goop offerings – the fact remains that any conversation that enhances our understanding of sex is a valuable one. As many of us can now attest, the sex education we received at school was lacking: devoid of understanding and giving enthusiastic consent, female desire, pleasure and various other topics that are either still considered taboo or remain hidden under the veil of shame. Now, Paltrow is looking to tackle the taboos of intimacy and desire. 

For those who are yet to watch Sex, Love and Goop, the six-part series follows real couples as they’re guided by experts to work on intimacy, communication, body image, and pleasure – both for themselves and each other. Some of the methods utilised to better understand their own erotic desire and those of their partner include using sex toys to harness each other’s energies and taking an intimacy “blueprint” quiz. Not surprisingly, the latter has gone viral as it led many viewers to question what their own erotic blueprint might be. 

Where love languages help identify how we like to receive love, the erotic blueprints help people figure out how they get turned on for sex. It makes the test incredibly useful when it comes to understanding your partner’s desire as what might flat line your own sexual energy, could just be what turns on your partner. In Sex, Love and Goop, somatic sexologist Jaiya introduces couples to the test, something she developed to help couples communist their personal patterns of arousal. In a 2015 YouTube video filmed alongside her lover and business partner, Ian Ferguson, the pair outline the five types and what they mean. 

Energetic

As Jaiya explains, “The energetic loves playing with ‘touching but not touching,’ all of those really fun things. They like the energy. And some of them really get into the spiritual aspect of sexuality. Yes, sex and spirit can go together, and so there’s this sense of I’m reaching or attaining enlightenment through my sexual energy.”

Sensual

“A sensual is turned on by having all of their senses just ignited,” says Ferguson. “That can be contouring deep, sensual touch; that can be taste – chocolate; the environment – candles; music, just really making that environment.”

Sexual

As Jaiya describes, “The sexual loves nudity; they love penetration; they like frequent intercourse; they can really get into orgasm; and they can get upset if they’re not getting enough sex – if they’re not getting enough orgasm.” She adds, “They like erotic visuals, they like self-pleasuring, or masturbation. Sexuals, they love sex!”

Kinky

“A kinky is turned on by taboo,” Ferguson explains. “Taboo could be whips and chains, or it could be sex in missionary style. It just depends what really turns you on.”

Shapeshifter

“The shapeshifter is somebody who’s turned on by all of these,” says Jaiya. 

So, just which one are you? The test is available on Jaiya’s website in two different versions: one you can do for free to figure out your Blueprint Type, and an in-depth quiz you need to pay for that delivers a complete “pleasure profile.” For those in a sex rut or simply looking to add some passion to a relationship, the test could be an extremely valuable one to do, either alone or with a partner. For those in a relationship, you never know what it might uncover; you could discover a shared turn-on, or something you never knew about before. And should you find that you and your significant other have vastly different Erotic Blueprints, it’s worth noting that this is normal, too. As Jaiya and Ian explain, knowing your partner’s arousal style can help foster a deeper understanding of each other’s bedroom behaviours. 

“One of the benefits of knowing what your Erotic Type is [is] having more compassion,” Jaiya explains. “Because I can look at Ian and go, ‘Now I understand why he’s getting up to go change the music in the middle of sex, which drives my blueprint [sexual] crazy.”

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