"I've always wanted to tie a girl up, but I'm worried about asking for that. I watch Law & Order. I know how wrong that can go." —Bill, 21
"I love it when a girl talks dirty, but I would be embarrassed to ask her to do it. I wouldn't want her to ask me to do it back. I don't know how!" —Tommy, 26
"Threesomes. I wouldn't want to hurt her feelings and have her interpret it like, 'Oh, you don't like me? You need more?'" —Grant, 25
"What I've always wanted to do is have sex with a girl between her boobs, but I wouldn't want to ask. It could be degrading." —Billy, 27
There are probably things you're a little too shy to ask for in bed too, so hopefully this can serve as inspiration to open up your bedroom dialogue and remind each other that if you don't ask, you'll never know the answer. Whether there's something you want to try or you just want to gauge your partner's fantasies, start by having an open, honest, and judgment-free conversation about it. Of course, this doesn't mean you have to check everything off each person's list (if it's not your thing, it's not your thing), but simply sharing your desires and telling them what you want can go a long way toward an amazing sex life.
This article originally appeared on Women's Health.