Who isn’t a little curious about squirting? The topic has been hotly debated, with some researchers saying it’s just pee, and others saying it’s definitely something else.
Whatever the case, you're probably wondering what it really feels like — and how you can experience it too.
Here, three women open up about what it’s really like to squirt during sex.
How old are you?
Woman A: Twenty-seven.
Woman B: Twenty-two.
Woman C: Twenty-eight.
How did you first discover you were capable of squirting?
Woman A: I had been doing some research on squirting and one thing that came up a lot was to just let go and let your body do what it wanted while you were having an orgasm, so I tried it. At first, it felt like I had to pee and so I wanted to hold it. But when I just let go, I realised that I could squirt.
Woman B: It happened a few months ago. My partner was going down on me and fingering me at the same time and all of a sudden the sheets were soaked. It was totally random. I knew about squirting but I was definitely not trying to squirt.
Woman C: I first I noticed I was having more intense orgasms and that they were more wet than usual, but I didn’t know squirting was a thing. Then I had an orgasm in missionary and it seemed as if I just peed, although the feeling was far from it. After that experience, my partner suggested I might be squirting and explained what it was. It sounded like something that only happened in porn. Then I went online and read more about it and the descriptions fit what I felt.
How did it feel, physically speaking?
Woman A: It felt amazing! When I squirted, I got this warm, excited feeling that made me arch my back and squeeze every muscle in my body.
Woman B: I didn’t even know it was happening until the sheets were soaked underneath me. I was under the impression squirting only happened during at orgasm, but for me it did not. I was certainly feeling pleasure but it wasn’t anything out of the norm, pleasure-wise.
Woman C: Right before I felt like my body temperature rose from between my legs to my stomach and legs. Then I felt a soft tremor on the inside of my thighs and the urge to pee, like a need for release. When I orgasmed, my legs shook a bit and I felt a warm liquid (thicker than urine) come out.
And how did you feel about it afterward, emotionally?
Woman A: When I was younger and was still learning about my body, I used to feel bad because I didn't understand it much. But as I got older, I realized that it is a natural thing and emotionally, it makes me happy. It's almost like I can feel the endorphins going through my body and I feel on top of the world.
Woman B: At first I was so embarrassed because I really thought it was pee, but my partner was very supportive. Once I smelled it and realized it didn’t smell like pee at all, I was excited to have squirted.
Woman C: After I squirt, I still get embarrassed because my first thought is that I peed, and the extra wetness feels weird and out of place, like something I need to clean right away. I’ve only squirted with my husband, and since he knows that I feel some shame, he reassures me that it’s normal and sexy.
Do you squirt every time you have sex, or is it something that only happens sometimes now?
Woman A: I've never actually squirted during penetrative sex, only during masturbation or when I receive oral sex. It's something that I've tried to achieve but I just have to keep trying.
Woman B: It’s only happened a few times. It tends to happen when I’ve already had sex a few times that day.
Woman C: I don’t always squirt and I’m not sure what causes me to do so, physically. It happens more often with penetration and simultaneous masturbation, and is more likely to happen when there’s more time in between sex. I have no way to control it or predict it. I orgasm anyway without the squirting.
Are there any particular positions that make it more likely for you?
Woman A: Though I haven't squirted during sex yet, I think the two positions that would make it more likely for me is the cowgirl because I have more control and the spooning position because of the closeness my partner and I have.
Woman B: The only times I’ve ever squirted are when my partner was going down on me and fingering me at the same time.
Woman C: Me on top and simultaneous manual clitoris stimulation. Missionary but on a certain angle in which the clitoris rubs against him and this one but laying entirely with simultaneous clitoris stimulation.
And how does it differ from peeing?
Woman A: Squirting, like the name suggests, comes out in squirts whereas pee generally streams out. In addition, as your vagina pulsates during the orgasm, the squirts synchronize with them, for me at least.
Woman B: It doesn’t smell like pee. I also didn’t feel it happening which I feel like I would definitely would if it was pee.
Woman C: The amount of the liquid is less than regular urine and the consistency is thicker. Peeing has no sexual component for me but squirting is simultaneous to orgasm and I feel my body temperature arousing.
How do your partner(s) feel about it?
Woman A: I'm currently single but my past partners have actually loved getting squirted on. It turned them on and made sex more enjoyable.
Woman B: My partner did not mind at all. Putting a towel down is not a big deal.
Woman C: He finds it sexy and makes him feel like he’s in a porn movie. He gets more excited than I do when it happens.
How do you think squirting is perceived by the rest of society?
Woman A: I think that it tends to be taboo because a lot of people don't understand it, or their bodies. Also, many people think that squirting doesn't exist and women are just out here peeing on themselves, which is definitely not the case. I think if those people gave squirting an honest chance and relaxed their bodies more, they would realize how much of a real and pleasurable experience it is.
Woman B: Before I squirted, I was convinced squiring was pee. I also thought that it only coincided with an orgasm. Now that I’ve experienced it, I know that isn’t the case.
Woman C: I think there’s lack of information about it and it’s not a regular conversation topic. If anything, it’s spoken of as a myth or conflated with urine, so it’s easy to be judgmental of it.
This article originally appeared on Men's Health US.