As Currie has explained to others on the community, her condition has had a huge impact on her relationships and affected them greatly. She explained that the last time she was having “healthy” sex with a partner was seven years ago, when she was 20. Her tearing issue began during an abusive relationship which began in 2015, but Currie remains unsure if there’s a link. She references ‘jock itch’, a contagious fungal infection which causes a red and itchy rash, which her partner at the time experienced and Currie considers could be a potential cause for the tearing. Even despite having numerous treatments over the years, Currie remains no closer to a ‘normal’ sex life.
Speaking about her relationships, Currie wrote: “The lack of sex in this relationship due to cheating on me, made my confidence incredibly low. I was never touched sexually and felt like a spare part. What made this worse is a couple of years later, my most recent partner did the same thing. Not the abusive part, but the no sex part. To have two partners back to back who didn’t seem very interested in sex has made me recoil into my shell even more. Then came the pandemic, leaving me feeling like I don’t even know how to have sex anymore. Not with confidence anyway.”
She added, “I don’t feel sexy, I feel unloved and unwanted. Like I’ve been put on a shelf, but combine that with not being able to feel sexy because I have to wear cotton big girl’s pants, always have something wrong with my vulva/vagina and can’t physically enjoy sex without pain. I feel like I would let any future partner down. They would need to be incredibly understanding.”
As Currie struggles to understand her condition and diagnosis, her posts are empowering others to share their own struggles and feel less alone in their own health journey. Several commenters took to her post to share their own experiences, with one saying: “I am married and I am lucky to have such a wonderful caring husband. I have provoked vestibulodunia with tearing on the posterior forcette. I worry daily it will eventually break us and he will find someone with a ‘normal vag’.
Another added, “I found your page after googling my issues. I’m now 33 and have never had healthy sex life due to tearing. I can’t tell you how much it’s meant to me to find you and feel like I’m not alone. It’s a very miserable and lonely journey, but you’ve helped me feel less self-critical and embarrassed.”