Here's Why Tammin Sursok Schedules Sex With Her Husband

Tammin Sursok Makes A Compelling Case For Why All Parents Should Schedule Sex

by | Aug 27, 2020

Motherhood seriously eats into your free-time (brb, just raising a child!), and sometimes, that means catching up on sleep when you’d rather be doing something else… like getting busy.

Tammin Sursok knows the drill. Speaking on Kidspot’s podcast (aka, The Juggling Act) the LA-based Aussie actress shared how the perils of parenting had taken a toll on her sex life with husband Sean McEwen.

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“For the first two to four years, you’re really close as a couple and then when kids and work come in, you sort of split apart and that’s when the danger zone is – and then you kind of come back after those years when the kid grows up,” she said. 

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The couple first noticed they were going through a “rough period” after welcoming their daughters Phoenix and Lennon to the world (now 6-year-olds and 12 months, respectively.)

“We were just bickering and tired and aggressive and hit having sex and I was like ‘no no no. hold up. We love each other so much, we’ve got to stop,’ she continued. “We started going away together once a month to communicate and have sex and talk – we became each other’s best friends again.”

The biggest thing she’s learned? Parents should always prioritise sex – even if that requires putting a date in the calendar.

“Go and have a drink. Have sex. Schedule it,” she said.

“If I didn’t schedule sex, I would never have it. I have sex on Tuesdays and Fridays because that’s when the nanny is there. Sometimes it starts a little awkward but then I go ‘Oh I like this.’”

You heard the woman.

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But as we transition from leggings to shorts, it becomes clear pretty quickly that not all shorts are created equal, and certainly not all shorts are fit for a workout. Take it from us at Women’s Health HQ, we’ve been there, tried it and lived to see the consequences. From the shorts that look cute but ride up to show your undies on the run, to those that feel like being strapped into a harness that’s digging into your hip bones. Then there are the fabrics that can cause chafing – a big no – and those that basically shine a spotlight on any area you might be sweating. 

Thankfully, a number of brands are here to cater to your exercise needs with innovative materials, fabrics and sustainable options to see you through a summer of movement. Regardless of your workout preferences or daily activity, we’ve selected the best shorts that will ensure you feel good in your body, shorts that get you excited to embrace the day and attack it with energy, that make you want to get outside and enjoy the outdoors, whether it be walking, running, or socialising in the park. Here are our pick of the best bike shorts below. 

Nagnata

Uptown Biker, $240

What says summer more than a pop of orange and the sleek shape of these Nagnata biker shorts? With its mid-length and horizontal raised rib side detail, these are shorts you can wear both for a workout and out to meet the girls. Made in Australia with a technical knit fabrication, the double-layer jacquard provides gentle sculpting qualities for the body, making it an excellent choice for light to moderate fitness activities like yoga, pilates or barre. 

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New Balance

Q Speed Fuel Short, $70

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All Access

Ultra High Rise Zip Front Biker Short, $78

Yes, the colour is amazing but the fit is equally sensational on these All Access shorts. For those who love a high-rise fit and wide waistband that holds you in at the waist, look no further. The sleek, shiny look offers mid-compression and the fabric is moisture-wicking, so you can stay comfortable even during your sweatiest workouts. 

Nike

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Tracksmith

Session short Tights, $72

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Outdoor Voices

Relay 3” Short, $48

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Lululemon

Align High-Rise Short 6”, $69

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Spiritual Gangster

Seamless Biker Short, $112

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