For one, the skin-to-skin contact is unparalleled: You're literally attached from the neck down to your feet. Two, having your partner back their hips up against yours means that you feel **every inch** of them inside from the beginning of each thrust to the end. And last but not least: Because of the physical closeness, there are so many opportunities for extra sensation, says Janet Brito, PhD, a licensed clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist in Honolulu, Hawaii. That includes your partner kissing your neck, stroking your nipples, massaging your clitoris. The options are endless.
All that said, spooning sex won't just make itself exciting. Here's how to crank your spooning game up a notch:
- Fool around with your fingers.
Spooning sex happens most in the morning, when you're half asleep, or in the evening, when you're about to zonk out. Both of these moments (especially the a.m.) are times when you might be particularly tight down-there. So "wake up" by exploring your vagina and clitoris with your fingers, or have your partner do so as they get excited, too.
- Add lube.
Ah, lube: the answer to pretty much every sex scenario. Lube just makes intercourse better, period. And that goes two-fold when you're not super wet on your own (before you're fully awake and stimulated, or after a long, stressful day). You'll definitely want it for spooning sex in particular, Brito notes, since the close-contact position can feel intense (read: uncomfortably deep) without it.
- Play with y'alls hips.
Sure, you have easy access to your partner's junk and they can quickly get handsy with yours (upper and lower). But you're also in the perfect position to give attention to each other's hip bones—which, for many people, is a serious erogenous zone. Squeeze your partner's hips and have them squeeze yours—it'll likely send a tickle down to the exact place you need it.
- Experiment with leg positioning.
I get it: Lying down and not moving much is half the beauty of spooning sex. But that's the boring kind...and you're over that, right? To make your sexy sesh more exciting, get frisky with your legs: Lift one up toward the ceiling, bend one and place your foot on top of your other shin, bend both knees drastically. All of these twists will change the feeling of fullness inside you, explains Brito. Hot!
Now that you've got the 411 on having holy-sh*t spooning sex, try these four positions, stat:
1. Traditional Spoon
Ah, Traditional Spoon, how I love thee. This classic (for a reason, natch) position requires minimal effort—but with the tips above—results in maximum pleasure. Win!
Do It: Both of you lie on your sides, facing the same direction. You bring your knees up slightly while your partner slides up behind your pelvis and enters you from behind.
2. The Spork
Okay, so this is more like a half-spooning position, but who's counting? All this tweak takes is a minor shift in form on your end (you just flip onto your back and lift a leg) for you to get some direct grinding action on your clitoris. Yum.
Do It: Flip onto your back while your partner stays on their side. Then raise your left leg so they can position themselves between your legs at a 90-degree angle and enter you. Your legs will form the tines of a spork (that's a spoon-fork combo, ICYDK).
3. Reverse Scoop
As far as I'm concerned, spooning is less about your heads facing the same direction and way more about your bodies cocooning into each other. I mean, there's no reason you can't have spooning sex while looking into each other's eyes—so meet the Reverse Scoop.
Do It: Flip your body to face your partner, and pull their body close to yours as they enter you. Intertwine your legs, and go (read: grind) at it.
4. Seated Spoon
Who said you can only spoon while lying down? This tweak on the Traditional Spoon ensures serious G-spot stimulation—and changes up the view of your hot bodies.
Do It: Have your partner sit on the edge of the bed or on a chair. Then you sit on top of them, facing away.
This article originally appeared on Women's Health US.