Ah, shower sex. It looks great in movies, but in real life, it can be slippery, dangerous, uncomfortable, and all-around hard to actually pull off. Mood kill! Yet with the right tips, you can totally make your next attempt at shower sex hot as hell—and we don't just mean the water temperature.
Here, real men who love shower sex share their pro tips for making it smooth, orgasmic, and completely doable.
Use the bench.
“If you have a bench in the shower, use it, because it gives balance and makes you more stable so you don’t slip and fall in the shower. Plus, you can do more moves when using the bench—like you can do reverse cowgirl [or] just her on top, [or] doggy, and she can hold the bench.” —Ryan*
Bring toys into the shower.
“Sometimes my GF will bring toys into the shower with us, like different vibrators and rings and stuff for more sensations there. The vibrating with the shower head is another thing you can do instead of toys for her.” —Devin
Tip: Make sure your toys are waterproof before you take them in the shower.
Don’t try advanced positions
“I was having shower sex with my girlfriend for the first time and we wanted to do really intense stuff like in a bedroom—but DON’T, because it’s really different and not safe. Like, don’t do things where you hold her up, [or] stuff where no one is hanging onto a bench or wall or something stable on the floor of the tub. We ended up slipping—no one got [seriously] hurt, which was lucky, but it wasn’t good and left a bruise on her butt!” —Dave*
Take it all in.
“Shower sex can be hot and steamy and you get a good whole view of naked bodies, so take it in! When I have shower sex, I look around everywhere and feel like a lucky, lucky man for having this girl with me.” —John
Don’t get too rough.
“[It's] not the time to go rough and do more kinky stuff. Save that for the bed where you have more stability and can move around more freely without worrying about falling and breaking all your bones!” —Seth*
Sex it up during the red tide.
“Shower sex can be a good way to have sex when it’s that time, and it doesn’t leave blood everywhere or on our bodies, which is nice.” —Gabe*
*Some names have been changed to allow subjects to speak freely on sensitive topics.
This article originally appeared on Men's Health US.