“I think if you ask your average person what they think the average penis size is, they’d probably tell you something like six, six-and-a-half, or even seven [inches],” Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex therapist, tells Women's Health. “This is something that there’s a lot of confusion and misinformation about. The average penis size is around five to five and a half inches [erect].”
As such, it’s often difficult to dislodge a sense of genital insecurity from a modestly-endowed man’s mind.
It bears noting that women don’t even care much: A survey of 1,100 Cosmopolitan readers (96 percent of whom identified as women) found 89 percent were unconcerned about their partner’s package size.
That's probably because most women know that penis size really isn’t the determining factor in sexual pleasure. It's really about finding the right O-inducing position or move.
Still, if your dude seems concerned about slippage—or you've experienced that IRL, here are six positions that are sure to satisfy:
1. Knees to chest
Any position where the woman is on her back and her legs are in the air works well for a smaller penis, Marin says. So, lie back and pull your thighs to your chest while your partner positions himself over you. Drape your legs over his shoulders for entry, positioning them on either side of his neck, or even over one shoulder.
“If she crosses her legs at the ankles and rests those on his chest, that can work well because, again, it just creates a tighter fit,” Marin explains.
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2. Man’s Best Friend
“Doggy style can work pretty well” for a more modest package, Marin advises. To assume the position, kneel on all fours and have your guy get on his knees behind you, or stand behind you while you kneel on the mattress. Controlled motions are key when it comes to smaller members and doggy style, according to Marin: “Have the guy focus more on the depth of his penetration rather than trying to pull all the way out, because doggy style can lead to slippage." Bonus: From this position, he has easy access to your clit.
3. Face off
Any position that has the two of you chest-to-chest and crotch to crotch, like this one, could work “really, really well,” Marin says. To achieve this one, have your guy sit on the edge of a bed or stable surface and straddle him, grinding against him while seated in his lap. Not only is grinding a surer bet for keeping his penis in place, it should give you some clitoral stimulation as well.
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4. Cowgirl
“Woman-on-top positions can be good because they lead to a lot of deep penetration,” Marin notes, adding that some smaller guys may feel a little anxious about slippage when they’re not in control of the motion. If your partner has a hard time focusing on anything but keeping his penis inside you when you’re on top, maybe try grinding or stirring motions rather than pumping up and down.
5. Seashell
Similarly to the knees-to-chest position, the seashell works well because it allows for super close PIV contact—and your partner can grind or move in a circular motion, rather than thrust. Lying on your back, curl your pelvis up and your legs back toward your shoulders, spreading them in a V. Have your him enter you straight down, and if you can, narrow the space between your legs for a tighter fit. Or, depending on your flexibility, move both to one side of his collar bone.
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6. Upstanding Citizen
“If you have a high bed or maybe a table or a countertop that’s safe for having sex on,” Marin advises, try having sex with your partner standing in front of you, while you lie back on your surface of choice. It’ll align your pelvis and give him more control, and you can also cross your ankles over one of his shoulders for a more snug sensation.
This article originally appeared on Women's Health US