"[He] threw out all my birth control pills," Nikki said during a recent interview on Dr. Berlin's Informed Pregnancy podcast. (Nikki laughed about it, but…) Ian chimed in to explain himself. "We decided that we wanted to have children together, and it was just time. But unbeknownst to poor Nikki, she didn't realise that I was going to go in her purse and take out her birth control," he said. "By the way, it was the beginning of the pack, so I had to pop all those suckers out."
Ian says he has a six-minute video of Nikki "freaking out" as he flushed the pills down the toilet. "Actually, now thinking about it, I guess I kind of decided [to start a family]," he said.
Now let's take a minute to unpack that: Having a child should be a decision that you and your partner make together, and it sounds like Nikki and Ian did just that. But, even then, the timeline of when you'll actually begin trying to conceive should be something that you both agree on.
When it comes to birth control pills, it should be a woman’s choice when she decides to take them or stop taking them. While Nikki and Ian seem to find the whole thing funny now, Ian flushing her pills without her consent is kind of messed up. Just sayin'.
The couple have now responded to the controversy with a joint apology after initially lashing out at those who criticised the situation.
During the podcast, Nikki also revealed she struggled with whether she wanted to give birth at home or in a hospital. "The birth that I always wanted was a home birth with no lights, no one talking, no intervention of any kind," she said. "I wanted to be peaceful, quiet, alone." But ultimately, she ended up deciding to have Bodhi in a hospital.
The couple also decided to take 30 days just for themselves after their daughter was born. "Just the three of us, no visitors, and we're turning off our phones too, so there's no expectation for us to communicate,” Nikki told Fit Pregnancy before her daughter was born. Otherwise, every five minutes it would be, 'How are you feeling? Can we have a picture?' You don't get those first 30 days back, and we want to be fully present."
This article originally appeared on Women's Health