So take that gorgeous body of yours out for a test drive to discover new ways to feel really great. If you're a clit-focused kind of person, experiment with some internal stuff. Or vice versa. Stand instead of sit, lie on your belly instead of your back. Use your other hand, try an arousal gel, or hell, shove something up your butt. The worst thing that can happen is bad sex with yourself, which really isn't even a thing. Here are a few positions to get you started.
1. Let It Flow, Let It Flow
If you have mobility issues or haven't mastered the tub yoga required to angle yourself way down by the bathtub faucet, try spout/slide device that attaches to the faucet to get the water where it needs to go. Test the water for temperature (too hot or too cold is so no bueno), lie back and open your legs to receive the glory. Adjust the flow or scootch around for more/less intense stimulation.
2. The Hand Hump
Lube up your fingers, lie on your belly and your way with your hand. Rock your hips onto it, grind against it or slide up and down. If you're feeling it, try both hands at once, using the weight of your body to put more pressure on your clit.
3. The Minimalist
If you take the time, you can get super attuned to even the subtlest touch. Lean back on a comfortable pillow 'cause you're going to be doing some experiments. Tap your clit lightly, make tiny circles around it with a single lubed finger, cup your hand over your whole vulva and rub. Or try what you normally do, but suuuuper slowly. Slide a finger inside of your V and slowly pulse onto it by squeezing your Kegels. Don't race toward orgasm—I know! So hard!--but let yourself really feel what's happening.
4. The Easy O
Some toys are so friggin' good, all you can to do is succumb to the glory of a fully-automated, hands-free fuck. Lie back on the couch with a toy that either thrusts or massages you internally while buzzing your clit, while you watch the best labour-saving device ever attend to its duties. Yes, this is the laziest, most literally masturbatory thing you could possibly do. So what?
5. The Party for One
If you have roommates but need a quickie, like, now, hit the bathroom and lock the door. Wrap a powerful wand vibrator in a towel to tame that beast and muffle its noise. Press your makeshift lover between your hips and the sink. Rock back and forth against it or find a perfect spot and press against it. Afterwards, the towel doubles as a secret wand-hiding device.
6. The Slide Dish
Leave no hole unfilled by experimenting with some butt stuff. Lie on your side like the one-person spoon you presently are, lube up two fingers and slide them up and down along either side of your clit. As you get close to orgasm, hold back, then add in a dildo or finger inside of your vagina. When that is about to do you in, slide a butt plug in back and see if that does anything for you. If it doesn't, slide it out, no harm done. If it does, well, enjoy!
7. The Slip and Slide
If you've accidentally/on purpose discovered the sublime delights of running water on your vag via shower head or tub faucet, you must try pressing said vag against the water jets shooting into an (unpopulated—important!) pool or hot tub. Arrange yourself near a sexy-looking jet and ... oh ... god ... what were we talking about? Try cool or (sorta!) hot jets for different water lovin'.
8. The Double Circle
This one comes via sexy sex-ed site, OMGYES. With one finger, circle your clit and, at the same time, use a finger from the other hand to circle the entrance to your V. The lower hand circles at a slower tempo so there's a coordination learning curve, but once you get the hang of it, you'll be quite grateful for your new skill.
9. The Pretend Lover
Pop a dildo on a chair or on your bed and F that thing wildly, rubbing yourself as you go. Get into it and let yourself go—rock your hips against that lova sexily and moan loudly (close your windows first). Even if you can't come with penetration (note: like practically everyone), it can feel damn good to be penetrated. Plus if you're a little inhibited, this will help should you decide to take on some non-invisible lovers.
10. The Treat Yourself
Spend some money and invest in a really, really good toy, or better yet, a few of them. I would so, so recommend choosing an oral sex simulator like The Womanizer or Lelo Ora 2 to work its insanely perfect magic on the outside, while you slide an internal vibe or even an old-school dildo inside. Even if you think you're not that sensitive, V-wise, if you do this, oh, you will be this time around. #Trust.
11. The Show-Stopper
Grab a big-ass tube of lube (you'll be needing it) and seat yourself in front of a full-length mirror. Drizzle lube over your nipples and play with your boobs, sliding your hands over them, pinching, squeezing—just generally figuring out what you like. Take more lube and slather it over your belly, your inner thighs, and gradually on your vulva. Open wide and really look at yourself. Watch how you get wet and flushed when you're really turned on. Instead of thinking anything even remotely judgmental, become fascinated on how completely sexy you look. If this feels weird, that's means you extra need to do it.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan US.