4 Tips For Women Wanting To Initiate Sex With Their Partner

Women Are 3 Times Less Likely Than Men To Do This When It Comes To Sex

by | May 21, 2019

While the sexual dynamic is different in every relationship, it seems that one classic stereotype is backed by stats. A new study has found that women are three times less likely than men to initiate sex in long-term, heterosexual relationships. Research has also found that sex is far more likely to occur when it’s the woman who makes the first move, suggesting that it’s the woman who sets the limits when it comes to, well… coming.

Psychologists at the Norwegian University of Science and Technology were exploring what factors affect the frequency of intercourse in couples. One interesting finding is that women who tend to have more open attitudes towards casual sexual relationships are better at separating the positive, physical aspects of sex, from the emotional aspects of a relationship. I.e. They can still enjoy a good romp even if their significant other forgot to take out the rubbish bins for the millionth time. 

According to sex and relationships expert Jessica O’Reilly, there are plenty of reasons why men usually try to throw the leg over, one of which is that men are straight-up horn dogs.

“Research suggests that men think about sex more often than women, so it follows that they may seek it out more frequently,” O’Reilly told Women’s Health

Because that’s a fact we’re all well aware of, we tend to think that if our partner was in the mood, he’d let us know.

“This, of course, isn’t necessarily the case,” says O’Reilly. “Men aren’t always comfortable initiating sex and they aren’t always in the mood for sex either—sometimes you need to help put him in the mood.”

But giving your guy the ol’ wink wink nudge nudge can really pay off because when you both initiate sex you have more sex. Here are Jessica’s tips for initiating sex with your partner. 

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1. Be demanding

“Tell your partner to get on their knees, climb on top, or strip naked in the kitchen,” says O’Reilly. Not only does this give him a clear guide of what to do, it gives you exactly what you have a hankering for. “You’ll likely get more of what you want when you initiate,” says O’Reilly. “You set the mood, choose the location, and set the pace.”

2. Start early

It’s never to early in the day to begin building sexual tension. Send your man a cheeky text giving him a taste of what’s to come. 

3. Drop hints

Get a little Hansel and Gretel with some sexy props, e.g. leave the vibe you like to use together on his pillow to signal your interest. 

4. Play masseuse

The whole massage/happy ending thing is a fantasy for a lot of guys, so play it out at home. Offer to give your guy a rubdown, and then slooowly work your way south until you end up massaging his inner thighs. You’ve got it from there. Setting the stage this way helps put him in a giving mood and gives you a serious boost in sexual self-esteem because he’s literally putty in your hands, says O’Reilly.

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But as we transition from leggings to shorts, it becomes clear pretty quickly that not all shorts are created equal, and certainly not all shorts are fit for a workout. Take it from us at Women’s Health HQ, we’ve been there, tried it and lived to see the consequences. From the shorts that look cute but ride up to show your undies on the run, to those that feel like being strapped into a harness that’s digging into your hip bones. Then there are the fabrics that can cause chafing – a big no – and those that basically shine a spotlight on any area you might be sweating. 

Thankfully, a number of brands are here to cater to your exercise needs with innovative materials, fabrics and sustainable options to see you through a summer of movement. Regardless of your workout preferences or daily activity, we’ve selected the best shorts that will ensure you feel good in your body, shorts that get you excited to embrace the day and attack it with energy, that make you want to get outside and enjoy the outdoors, whether it be walking, running, or socialising in the park. Here are our pick of the best bike shorts below. 


Uptown Biker, $240

What says summer more than a pop of orange and the sleek shape of these Nagnata biker shorts? With its mid-length and horizontal raised rib side detail, these are shorts you can wear both for a workout and out to meet the girls. Made in Australia with a technical knit fabrication, the double-layer jacquard provides gentle sculpting qualities for the body, making it an excellent choice for light to moderate fitness activities like yoga, pilates or barre. 

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Q Speed Fuel Short, $70

We love the colour of these shorts from New Balance which are cut with a sleek, speedy look that also helps to elongate the legs. Featuring NB DRY moisture wicking fabric, these are the shorts you want for high intensity exercise or long runs, keeping you comfortable and dry. There’s also an interior brief for added comfort and a stash pocket to keep your essentials. 

All Access

Ultra High Rise Zip Front Biker Short, $78

Yes, the colour is amazing but the fit is equally sensational on these All Access shorts. For those who love a high-rise fit and wide waistband that holds you in at the waist, look no further. The sleek, shiny look offers mid-compression and the fabric is moisture-wicking, so you can stay comfortable even during your sweatiest workouts. 


Nike x Naomi Osaka Utility Short, $90

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Session short Tights, $72

When it comes to bike shorts, you want to feel supported and held in but you also want to be able to breathe. These Tracksmith session short tights are exceptional in offering support while still ensuring comfort remains a priority. Forget about chafing, these shorts won’t ride up and down and the fabric offers more coverage and support against the body. 

Outdoor Voices

Relay 3” Short, $48

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Align High-Rise Short 6”, $69

If you’re familiar with the buttery-soft feel of Lululemon’s tights, you’ll want to get your hands on a pair of their shorts, too. Made with the same Nulu fabric that their tights are known for, these shorts feel weightless and super soft. They might be our go-to staple for any workout, but the feel is so second-skin that it’s hard to not wear them for every other activity, too. 

Spiritual Gangster

Seamless Biker Short, $112

These biker shorts from Spiritual Gangster move with you, thanks to a three-tiered compressive waistband that offers a flattering high waist that hugs you in all the right places, without proving constrictive. They offer medium compression but are built for all day comfort, and the colour is a true summer staple because, let’s face it, who doesn’t love tie-dye?