So what's with all the controversy? "The G-spot is an area that's comprised of various tissues, as opposed to a specific spot," explains Jess O'Reilly, Ph.D., resident sexologist and relationship expert for Astroglide. Because it's not an anatomical entity that can be extracted from the body, the legitimacy of its existence continues to be hotly debated in the scientific community. "As opposed to being a singular organ, it's believed that its sensitivity is connected to stimulation of the female prostate (previously referred to as Skene's glands), urethral sponge, and inner clitoris," says O'Reilly.
If you're looking to find your own G-spot, you can access this sensitive area through the upper wall of the vagina (toward the stomach). "It's not inside the vagina, but is felt through the vagina," she says. You can reach in and curl your fingers up against the stomach wall of the vagina, and if you feel an area that's a bit swollen or ridge-like, you've likely found it. "During stimulation and arousal, the G-spot swells and can be felt more prominently, so work yourself up a little before going on the hunt," adds O'Reilly.
Now for some inspiration, read how these women managed to find the holy grail of erogenous zones.
"I made a makeshift sex toy."
"I was the last of my friends to lose her virginity—so as a joke, my sister bought me this book on female anatomy and arousal to 'keep myself busy' until I met someone worth losing my v-card to. It contained some pretty graphic tutorials, including one on how to find your G-spot. After a few sad attempts at finding it manually, I highjacked the banana from my mum's artificial fruit bowl and used it as a makeshift sex toy. The curved stem really (really!) hit the spot, unlike my first few boyfriends." —Chantal M., 24
"It was kind of like a windshield wiper."
"When I was 18, I had a fling with this super-hot—and super-married—man who oversaw my department. We snuck off to make out at a Christmas party, where he ended up introducing me to my G-spot for the first time. He pressed his fingers against it several times, and each time felt more amazing than the last. Just when I thought I couldn't take anymore, he rubbed his fingers against it (kind of like windshield wipers), pressed his other hand against my abdomen, and kept amping up the pressure until I came. It's still ranked as one of my top three orgasms of all time." —Mandy T., 28
"I used a disposable razor."
"When you live with three roommates, the only real privacy you get is when you're in the bathroom. Getting my rocks off in the shower became a routine of sorts. One morning I forgot to bring my vibe in with me, so I ended up using the handle of my disposable razor to get the job done. The angle of the handle unexpectedly rubbed against my G-spot just so, and the rest is history. I always keep an extra one handy now, just in case." —Alexandria P., 27
"He added a few fingers to oral."
"The first time I found my G-spot was also the first time I squirted. This guy I dated in college was gifted at cunnilingus, and would do this thing where he'd flick his tongue against my clitoris so fast that I half-expected him to fracture his jaw. One night, he took it to the next level by adding a few fingers into the mix, stimulating both my G-spot and clitoris simultaneously. The orgasm was so strong that I almost blacked out." —Kristy G., 32
"We did it doggy style."
"As my first pregnancy progressed, it became harder for hubs and I to find sex positions that were comfortable for me. He's one of the few men out there who's not into doggy style, but by the seventh month I finally convinced him that it was either doggy or moisturiser until after our daughter was born. I'd heard from a friend that doggy style was great for stimulating her G-spot—a spot I'd never had much luck in finding—so I decided to give it a whirl. I did as she suggested and kept switching up the angle of my pelvis until he struck gold. The orgasm was amazing, but getting there was rocky. I found the whole feeling-like-I-had-to-pee thing to be a total buzzkill." —Becky S., 31
This article originally appeared on Women's Health US.