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Couples Who Describe Their Sex Life As ‘Incredible’ All Have This One Thing In Common

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  • 11 Oct 2019
Couples Who Describe Their Sex Life As ‘Incredible’ All Have This One Thing In Common
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Google ‘tips for mind-blowing sex’ and you’ll be presented with series of vague platitudes like “prioritise foreplay” and “masturbate.” Cheers. Sounds simple. But what if we told you a satisfying love life has more to do with your actions outside of the bedroom?

A recent survey by sex toy company CalExotics found that 93 per cent of people who consistently set goals for themselves had “incredible” sex on the reg. These goals often involved their relationships but were also do to with finances, health and fitness.

Interestingly, 84 per cent of these participants also set goals with their partners. Sometimes these were sexual in nature (like having sex more often or experimenting with kinks) although mostly they were centred around enhancing connection (via sharing more and prioritising honesty.)

On the flip side, 52 per cent of people who described their sex life as "boring or non-existent" consistently set goals for themselves.

RELATED: How To Revive Your Sex Life When You're In A Long-Term Relationship

So, what’s the tie-in?

"People who are goal-setters tend to be focussed and offer what they want to achieve intention and attention, and this same rule can apply to our sex lives,” relationship psychotherapist Kate Moyle told Cosmopolitan UK.

"Whilst being goal-orientated (e.g. focused on achieving orgasm) can actually be detrimental to enjoying sex as it can become performance-focused, the couples that often report having better sex are those that are actively involved and investing in their sexual and intimate lives.

"Our sex lives require nurturing like everything else in our lives and so setting positive habits around this can really pay dividends as we are seeing with the reports from this research."

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Lucy is Women Health’s digital editor, social media specialist and the go-to girl for all things holistic wellness. Her background as a journalist and passion for food, fitness and integrative medicine has led her to write for some of Australia’s leading publications over the course of her career.

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