Dax Shepard Just Gave This Woman The Best Relationship Advice We’ve Ever Heard

Now that Chris Pratt and Anna Faris have gone the way of Brad and Ange, Dax Shepard and Kristen Bell are basically our last shred of proof that true love actually exists. The actors have further cemented their #CoupleGoals status in a recent episode of Ellen DeGeneres’ Show Me More Show. In the “Ask Dr. […]

by | Nov 17, 2017

Now that Chris Pratt and Anna Faris have gone the way of Brad and Ange, Dax Shepard and Kristen Bell are basically our last shred of proof that true love actually exists. The actors have further cemented their #CoupleGoals status in a recent episode of Ellen DeGeneres’ Show Me More Show.

In the “Ask Dr. Dax” segment, the actor dished out some seriously stellar relationship advice when a woman asked him what she should do when her boyfriend gives her the “silent treatment”.

Dax: “That’s Male 101, the silent treatment. Can I ask you a couple questions? Are you a transmission mechanic?”

Courtney: “No.”

Dax: “If your transmission broke, would you and your boyfriend try to fix it — would you take it out in the driveway and try to fix it?”

Courtney: “I would take it to the auto shop.”

Dax: “Right, because you care about your car. Are you a couples counselor, are you a therapist?”

Courtney: “No.”

Dax: “Do you care about your relationship?”

Courtney: “Yes.”

Dax: “Then you should show it the same respect you’d show your car. You should go to a therapist, have couples therapy. Kristen and I started right out of the gate. It’s a great way to prevent terrible patterns from starting as opposed to doing it way late and trying to unravel terrible patterns.”

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Kristen and Dax, who have two daughters together, have done much to break down the stigma around therapy, speaking candidly about the importance of communication in relationships and their use of couples, and personal, counsellors. 

But the wise words didn’t end there, another audience member asked how he could get his wife to close the cupboard doors after she used them.

“At a certain point, you have to realise, ‘OK, I’m a variable in this equation,” Dax responded.

“Kristen is a variable in this equation. ‘Which one can I change?’ I can’t change her — that’s not going to happen. So that means I have to just shut those cabinets and deal with it. You could drive yourself mad the rest of your life that this is happening and try to get them to change this, or you could personally go, ‘I’m not going to let this bother me.’ . . . It’s really imperative that you recognise when you are going to be able to change that person or when you’re going to have to do the changing.”

Ahhh can we book an appointment, please?!

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It’s been labelled the shadow pandemic and the fact remains that for many women across Australia, domestic violence is a lived reality that doesn’t discriminate by age, occupation, or socio-economic status. Researchers have found that during Covid-19 lockdowns, there was a surge in family and domestic violence, with agencies experiencing a surge in demand as nearly half their clients reported an increase in controlling behaviours. 

As many who have lived through such turmoil and trauma can attest, the roadmap to fleeing such situations at home can be fraught with challenges and extremely difficult to navigate, particularly when such bureaucracy makes it even harder. Now, it’s been announced that women fleeing a violent relationship will be given a one-off $5,000 payment as part of a federal government trial scheme. 

Known as the “escaping violence payment scheme,” the government has set aside $144.5 million over the next two years to give women $1,500 cash, with the remainder to pay for goods and services, bond, school fees and other necessaries to establish a new safe home. UnitingCare Network will be tasked with delivering the payments while helping link women and their children with relevant community services. 

As the Daily Telegraph reports, “An analysis of domestic violence data by the Australian Bureau of Statistics shows that while it is more common for women from poorer areas, women from high socio-economic areas are not immune from experiencing partner violence.”

As Women’s Safety Minister Anne Ruston explained, the trial has been introduced with the aim to help women overcome the financial barriers that might deter them from leaving a violent relationship. “We know that financial hardship as well as economic abuse - which may involve interfering with work or controlling or withholding money - reduces women’s ability to acquire and use money and makes it difficult to leave violent relationships,” she said. 

“The payments will assist people who need financial support to leave. We know the size of the house a woman is fleeing doesn’t matter. Often she bundles the kids into the car, maybe the dog too and they leave with nothing more than the clothes on their backs.”

To be eligible for a payment, women must be facing financial stress and have some evidence of domestic violence such as a referral from a family and domestic violence service provider with a risk assessment and safety plan, or an AVO, court order or police report. As UnitingCare Australia National Director Claerwen Little said, “We believe that all people, especially women and their children, have the right to live freely and without fear, and this payment is an important step forward to ending violence against women and children.”

If you require immediate assistance, please call 000.

If you’d like to speak to someone about domestic violence, please call the 1800 

Respect hotline on 1800 737 732 or chat online. 

Under 25? You can reach Kids Helpline at 1800 55 1800 or chat online.