When a personal trainer reached out to Cassie Young on Twitter offering his services after her recent engagement announcement, the 31-year-old politely declined.
“I am in shape! Thank you so much for the offer, though,” she wrote.
But that’s when things got, well... shocking, infuriating, offensive – pick your superlative.
“I know you want to look your best on your wedding day,” the man replied. “If you don’t hire me, hire someone. Those pictures last centuries. Your children’s children’s children will still have those pictures.”
“I know I’ll look my best because I’ll be so happy to marry the man that I love!” Cassie countered.
“I know it’s probably hard for you to understand this, but it’s taken me a long time to love my body. I’m constantly shamed or reminded that I’m heavy and I should be embarrassed — or people are embarrassed for me — or just straight up rude, calling me ‘disgusting.’ I’ve battled past all that and like myself and how I look.”
“The idea of me being embarrassed by my wedding pictures because I might be “fat” in them and people centuries from now will be ridiculing me? That’s the insinuation and I say f*ck that noise! I plan on living the kind of life that will have people talking about how I lived it to my fullest and my legacy, not about the fact that I have a tummy.”
But he STILL would not give up.
“You can accept how you look but you can’t be happy with the way you look. You can’t lie to yourself… I just wish the whole big body acceptance people would accept the fact that they are not happy with their bodies.”
The exchange continued with Cassie schooling the guy on his abhorrent body shaming and lack of morals. You can read the whole thing here but be warned, it will make your blood boil.
Cassie then took to Facebook and Instagram to share her experience with a reminder for other women and men that “it does not MATTER what you look like”.
“You are worthy. Love is out there for you. Life is waiting with open arms. It doesn’t matter if you’re skinny or fat or between the two or willowy or broad shouldered or pear shaped or like a board or anything in between. You get good stuff in life by being YOU. That's what matters.”
"Your inner-value and self-worth comes from YOU, not what you look like. Who gives a f**k if you got a few extra pounds. Or ten. Or twenty. Thirty. Whatever. If you are happy and healthy, that’s ALL that matters."
"Those pounds DO 👏NOT 👏DEFINE 👏YOU 👏OR 👏YOUR 👏WORTH. Don’t let people like this try to convince you otherwise, because they’ll try - but it’s because they don’t understand yet."
"Life is waiting for you. It's too short to be spent worrying about a belly roll. Go be happy and live it to your fullest."
Hear, hear! And hopefully anyone considering giving their unsolicited opinion on a woman's body re-thinks that move after reading this.