Camila Cabello Opens Up About Navigating Mental Health And Therapy In A Relationship - Women's Health

Camila Cabello Opens Up About Navigating Mental Health And Therapy In A Relationship

“For better, for worse, we’re very transparent with each other. I think that’s why we can trust each other so much.”

by | Oct 7, 2021

Before the global pandemic came to grip the news cycle and our social media feeds, there was Señorita. With the soft yet soaring vocals of Shawn Mendes perfectly matched to the strong powerhouse that is Camila Cabello, it instantly became a global phenomenon with a swoon-inducing video to match. The two weren’t exactly an item at that stage, but seeing their chemistry unfold on the screen led us all to believe we were witnessing the beginning of something remarkable, novel, the kind of love that sees a couple immediately enter the paparazzi spotlight as an “It” couple. Since then, the couple have continued to shine together and independently, releasing hit albums of their own and dazzling on the stage together. But while most would find such relationship scrutiny incredibly difficult, Cabello and Mendes have navigated it with great strength and as Cabello suggests, it’s thanks to transparency surrounding their own mental health and therapy. 

In a recent interview with Glamour, Cabello expressed that it’s thanks to being open and understanding with each other about their respective mental health journeys that she believes her and Mendes have a strong relationship, one that’s built on trust and intimacy. “For better, for worse, we’re very transparent with each other. I think that’s why we can trust each other so much, because it’s a very 3D human relationship,” she said. 

With each having gone through their own mental health struggles, Cabello and Mendes are able to listen to the other’s problems with empathy and understanding. They try to be honest with each other when they’re behaving in a certain way, knowing that their behaviour is the result of something else that’s internal, or that they’re feeling. “I think even just the language of being like, ‘Hey, I’m sorry that I’ve been distant with you or snappy with you. I’m just struggling and I’m feeling kind of anxious.’ That level of transparency really helps a lot,” said Cabello. 

 

The singer has previously spoken about dealing with anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorder and told the publication that Mendes has encouraged her to bring things up with her therapist at times, and vice versa. “I’ll be venting or ranting about something, and he’ll be like, ‘Have you talked to X about it?’ And I’ll be like, ‘No. I’ve got to do a session,’” Cabello explained. “And he’ll do the same thing to me.”

It’s a mindset Mendes has echoed himself, writing in an email to Glamour that he and Cabello provide each other with “an extreme amount of patience and understanding,” along with plenty of space. “I think the truth is that when you’re struggling with mental health, it turns you sometimes into the version of yourself that you don’t like to be,” explained the singer, “and kind of loving and accepting your person through that, and being there for them through that, is life changing.”

Illustrating just how they support one another, Cabello revealed that she often struggles with stress-eating, something she had confided to Mendes about as a behaviour pattern she does when feeling anxious or uncomfortable. As a result of being honest with her partner, Mendes was then able to offer support to Cabello when needed. “At the VMAs party, I was like, ‘I’m doing it.’ And he was like, ‘It’s okay. You’re doing it. That’s okay. Let’s just take a breath and not do that,’” Cabello recalled. “It’s really good for me to be able to talk about my patterns with someone.”

Critically, Cabello spoke about the importance of therapy and how taking care of her mental health has had a profound impact not just on her own wellbeing, but on her relationships too. She also spoke about how regular therapy during the pandemic helped her see some of the ways she was ignoring other aspects of her wellbeing in order to keep up with her career. She’s since learned to check in with herself before going onstage to see how she is feeling. “‘Am I even happy right now? Do I even feel healthy?’ I didn’t have the space to ask myself those questions,” says Cabello. “I’m still working a ton now, but after quarantine I’m able to be like, ‘You know what? Right now I’m just not happy. I need to change something.’”

By Jessica Campbell

Jess is a storyteller committed to sharing the human stories that lie at the heart of sport.

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