2. Find patterns
Let’s take a look at the planets in potential boo’s chart: The Sun reveals their external preferences, the Moon governs their emotions, Mercury rules communication, Venus is associated with love and values, and Mars symbolises sex drive. Notice which sign each planet is in—and how they interact with the planets and signs in your own chart. As a general rule, fire signs (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) and air signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius) vibe well together, while earth signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn) and water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces) have a ~special connection~.
3. Embrace tension
There will be areas of your charts that scream compatibility (any Moon and Venus correspondences are especially romantic) and others that, uh, don’t (Mercury and Mars, for instance, can be combative). But! In astrology, points of conflict are not necessarily negative. Tension can propel momentum and encourage you to shift your perspective (basically, it helps you sort out your shit).
4. Calm TF Down
Listen, if your overall compatibility just isn’t looking great, it’s fine. Try to flex your empathy muscle anyway—after all, even better-than-a-background-check birth charts don’t fully decode our complexities. At the end of the day, astrology is about compassion, ya know?
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan US.