In counselling charity Relate's 2017 'The Way We Are Now' report, which analysed the state of the nation's relationships, people with better quality couplings 'were more likely to report feeling good about themselves, feeling optimistic and feeling loved; and were less likely to report feeling lonely, or down, depressed or hopeless.'
Out of those interviewed, 75% reported being in 'satisfying' relationships. Cute.
To get you feeling your significant other even more, WH tapped up Irina Firstein, a Manhattan-based couples therapist, to give us the inside scoop on making each day that bit better.
1. Kiss and touch for the sake of it
There’s something inherently gratifying about giving and receiving affection. It may or may not lead to sex, and either is fine. Just don’t plan it.
'Many couples are too busy to touch or feel that if they do it will lead them to sex. And if they don’t have time to get physical, they don't touch,' Firstein says.
'This is a huge mistake. Touching is part of broad-based eroticism and does not have to be goal oriented, but rather a playful act between partners.
2. Make coming and going an event
When you leave in the morning, don’t just yell 'Goodbye!' and bolt out the door.
'Stop what you are doing when your partner leaves or returns and look at them, greet them, and give each other an embrace—the kind where you relax your bodies into one another's. This promotes and strengthens feelings of affection and connection. It makes the other feel loved and important,' Firstein says.
They’ll be thinking about that hug when you’re apart all day, unable to wait for similar treatment upon their return.
3. Turn off the electronics
The ultimate bond-builder? Netflix and chilling—minus the Netflix. Spend at least an hour a week hanging out with your partner without the buzz of notifications and alerts from your devices by putting them on airplane mode.
'You need to be present, available and accessible to your partner,' Firstein says. Without any distractions, you’ll be able to sit, talk, and enjoy each other.
4. Remember to remember
Use your senses to revisit happy moments - whether that's your partner's perfume or aftershave that reminds you of first meeting them, or re-making the Spaghetti Vongole you shared when you were a few months in.
Scent is strongly linked to memory, and a highly erotic hack for channeling nostalgia. One study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that nostalgia makes you more hopeful for the future.
It sounds simple, but laughing is the key to couple satisfaction. Research from the University of Kansas found the more times a woman laughed at a man’s jokes, the more likely she became romantically invested.
But the pressure isn’t on him to perform standup: The real indicator of relationship success is when both parties laughed together.
Start by watching a funny YouTube video or attending a comedy show together. Forging inside jokes you can laugh about down the road breeds closeness.
8. Send a text they're not expecting
When you’re not digitally detoxing, use your devices to your romantic benefit. Many couples get in the habit of only emailing or texting mundane questions throughout the day like: 'we need milk.'
Once a week, surprise your partner with a spontaneous note that's a bit more fun. It doesn't have to be overtly sexual if that's not who you are. As long as it’s genuine and shows you're thinking about them. “I like the idea of surprising texts or surprises in general,” says Firstein. 'Routine and familiarity kill romance. Newness and surprise are what make things exciting.'
This article originally appeared on Women's Health UK